You have once in your life to be single and the rest of your life to be married, so don't let anyone talk you out of having all the fun or exploring your spinsterhood. Being married and being single is never the same, being single means you can spread your wings and fly as high as you want without any restrictions, in marriage you are highly restricted or limited to what or how to do things because of the sacredness of the Union to the decision of your husband and the upbringing of your children,some people end up regretting being married not because of anything but because they didn't understood the value of spinsterhood ,they probably spent the whole of their spinsterhood in Moody mood wishing to married or the timing was wrong for them,this article will open your eyes to the golden side of spinsterhood while you prepare to be married and help you check if the time is right for you to really get married.
1:Get a college degree: Education has become a necessity today with the growing trends and the rise of digital technology, education will do more to you than just teaching you to read and write or being a professional in one area of your life, it prepares you emotionally,physically and mentally in life, while many people can still acquire a college degree while married but it is easier, better and more convenience to do while still single,the home front is a lot of work things like pregnancy, childbirth and weaning is a lot of set back if you are married and in school, getting a degree is a huge task, so doing both would be multitasking, you can't do well in both, so you probably be bad in one so you can be good in other.But if you had your degree before you marry,you can always be in your career, find a work or go back to one after childbirth.
2:Go for a trip:it can be a field trip,a road trip or just a getaway, just be adventurous something of which you won't be doing much while married with kids,create a fun story for your kids,take a lot of pictures while you are at it,your kids will be needing some evidence while you narrate to them of your many explores,travel a lot,go skiing, group excursions,do something that makes you laugh out loud or jump so high wishing you can reach the sky
3:Serve the Lord:our life no matter single or married is not really ours it belonged to our creator,that's why we don't even know how we came into being or how it's going to end,the best thing we can do with our life,all our youthful energy is to serve the lord,Ecclesiastes 12:1" remember your Creator in the days of your youth, before evil days come... and old age when no one can no longer serve God"the best time time to serve the lord is now,when you still have that undivided attention, live by examples, be active in the ministry of evangelism and when we serve the Lord in our spinsterhood,he compensates us while we are married. 4:Have sex?:having sex before marriage is wrong from different angles and dangerous in a lot of ways, from toiling with your emotions to contacting STDs to getting pregnant to aborting it and a whole lot of other things,many people thinks that if you are not having sex,you are missing out on something which is dead wrong, after all what is marriage all,you are going to be needing a lot of those strength to be sexually happy and active in marriage, infact the only thing you are missing if you are not having sex as a spinster,it's a chance to be heart broken, disease stricken and a whole lot of other stuff that's not cool.
5:Keep Male friends: I would say,be flirty but that would take your mind to the gutters,being a spinster is not a time to be away from guys,it's a time to be with them,not that you will have something Stinky going on, it can be platonic,being around guys gives you a sneaky peek of what men is all about as a friend or husband. 6:Get a career:your spinsterhood is the perfect time for you to get a career and build it,if your career is still budding ,it might entirely collapse if you get married without building it,a budding career requires lots of work but once it has grown requires lesser efforts and can be combined with the responsibility of marriage and motherhood. 7:Date:when I say date, I mean really date, dating allows you to know if you are ready for the next step,it helps you to know if he is what you want, it allows you to know if you are ready to be committed to this man for the rest of your life. When I say date,i mean really date,more than one man,so you can make comparison and not make a lifetime mistake, find out if it's safe to be with him,but in dating,you have to keep your emotions in tact,do not involve sex,so you will know when you are feeling lust or love.
8:Fall in Love:This is something you must wait for it to happen before you finally get married, don't think it might happen after marriage, just wait for it to happen and if it didn't, then that means that time is not yet right or he's not the one for you,you are supposed to naturally fall head over heels in love with him, if not you will regret it the minute after you married him
9:Meet his people: something about genes,know the kind of people you are about to give up your family and be with, the kind of life you are about to give up your wonderful spinsterhood for,the kind of characters they have in common ,what runs in their blood,their looks and thoughts towards you,not everything listed above should be place much emphasis on. 10:congratulations! All checked, then I think is really time to get married, without any fear whatsoever, knowing that no matter what your love will overcome two heads are better than one,marriage is God's idea and you are just fulfilling his purpose.
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